Child Strengths: How to Identify and Develop
As parents we want our children to be successful in life. We encourage them to excel academically, physically, and socially. While we want children to recognize and improve their weaknesses, it is also important to identify what our children are good at and nurture those specific strengths.
In this article, we will discuss why the strengths of a child matter, what are some examples of common strengths in children, how to teach your child about their strengths, and how to help them focus on their strengths.
Why is it Important to Focus on Strengths Instead of Weaknesses?
Strength-Based Parenting Builds Self-Esteem
While it can be helpful to identify both strengths and weakness, we have a tendency to identify problems and focus on trying to improve shortcomings.
When children are encouraged to develop their strengths, it helps to boost their self-esteem and confidence.
When children feel progress and success as a result of their effort they naturally feel good about themselves and their accomplishments. This can help them become more resilient and better equipped to handle challenges in life.
While we should not ignore weaknesses, no one wants to constantly hear about things they are bad at. We can help our children improve their weakness by giving them support and guidance.
Helps Children Develop a Growth Mindset
Focusing on strengths can help children develop a growth mindset. This is the belief that one can improve their skills and abilities through hard work and dedication.
By focusing on strengths, children are more likely to believe in their ability to learn and grow.
Encourages Children to Pursue Careers and Hobbies that Align with Their Strengths
When children are encouraged to develop their strengths, it can help them identify careers and hobbies that align with their interests and abilities. This can lead to greater success and satisfaction later in life.
What are Common Types of Strengths in Kids?
There are many different types of strengths in kids. It is important to remember that every child has strengths and that it does not mean they have to be the best at something.
It can be counterproductive to compare one’s abilities to those of another. Some of the most common include academic strengths, creative strengths, and physical strengths.
Click the image above to download the strengths shield activity sheets that accompany our podcast episode.
Academic Strengths
Academic strengths include skills such as reading, writing, and math. Some children may excel in these areas, while others may struggle. As a parent, it is valuable to identify your child’s academic strengths so they feel motivated to do their best in school.
Of course we want to help them address their weaknesses as well. It helps to identify areas where they may be struggling so they can get the help they need.
Creative Strengths
Many children have high levels of creativity and imagination, which allow them to think outside the box and approach problems in new ways. They also have an innate sense of curiosity, which fuels their desire to explore their surroundings and learn more about the world.
Creative strengths include skills such as drawing, painting, and music. These skills allow children to express themselves in unique and creative ways. Encouraging and nurturing a child’s creative strengths can help boost their self-esteem and confidence.
Physical Strengths
Physical strengths include skills such as running, jumping, and dancing. Developing physical strengths can help children stay active and healthy, as well as improve their motor skills.
Children gain confidence by developing physical skills and mastering different physical activities.
What are Some Other Kinds of Strengths in Children?
Social Strengths
Some examples of strong social abilities could include communication skills, empathy, and cooperation.
Developing strong social skills such as being a good listener can help children build positive relationships with others and work towards developing teamwork and leadership skills.
Math and Logic Strengths
Math and logic skills include problem-solving, critical thinking, and reasoning. These skills are essential for academic success and can be developed through practice and instruction.
Behavioral Strengths
Behavioral strengths include traits such as responsibility, self-control, and perseverance. Developing these character strengths can help children become more independent and responsible.
Check out our podcast for a fun and interactive way to help kids identify their strengths!
Emotional Strengths
Emotional awareness allows someone to be in tune with their own feelings and understand how they impact behaviors and relationships. Emotional strengths support self-control and and help individuals to regulate their emotions.
Study Skills
Study skills include organization, time management, and note-taking. These skills are essential for academic success and can be developed through practice and increased structure. Having a set schedule to focus on homework is a helpful way to improve study skills.
Literacy Strengths
Reading skills can be a strength for some kids, meaning that they have developed the ability to read and comprehend written text. These children may read at an advanced level for their age, easily understand complex texts, and have a large vocabulary.
How to Help Your Child Focus on Their Strengths
1. Identify their strengths: Take the time to observe your child and make note of their unique abilities, talents, and interests. This could be anything from creative writing skills to a knack for problem-solving or playing a musical instrument.
2. Encourage their interests: Once you have identified their strengths, make sure to provide opportunities for them to explore and develop those interests. Encourage them to participate in activities, classes, or clubs related to their strengths. This could involve signing them up for art classes, joining a sports team, chess club, or finding a mentor in their area of interest.
3. Set realistic goals: Help your child set achievable goals that align with their strengths. Break down larger goals into smaller, more manageable tasks, so they can experience a sense of accomplishment along the way. Encourage them to track their progress and celebrate their achievements.
4. Provide positive reinforcement: Offer praise and recognition when your child uses their strengths. Focus on their efforts and improvement rather than comparing them to others. Ask them how they feel when they make progress. Positive reinforcement boosts their confidence and motivation to continue honing their abilities.
5. Foster a growth mindset: Teach your child the importance of growth and learning from their experiences. Encourage them to embrace challenges and setbacks as opportunities for growth rather than sources of failure. Help them understand that skills and abilities can be developed through practice and perseverance.
6. Create a supportive environment: Foster an environment that supports your child’s strengths. Surround them with resources, materials, and opportunities that allow them to further explore and develop their passions. This could include books, art supplies, musical instruments, or supportive community programs.
7. Be a role model: Show your child how to focus on their own strengths by being a positive role model. Demonstrate perseverance, self-reflection, and a growth mindset in your own life and pursuits. Encourage open communication and seek opportunities to discuss their strengths and interests regularly.
Click the image above to download the strengths shield activity sheets that accompany our podcast episode.
Focusing on Strengths at School
Focusing on strengths at school is a crucial aspect to developing a student’s potential. Children come from a variety of backgrounds and their experiences influence their different strengths.
By identifying a student’s strengths, educators can tailor their instruction to capitalize on these skills, thus optimizing their learning experience and confidence.
When teachers highlight student’s strengths, they can help them build a sense of accomplishment, which in turn fosters greater motivation and engagement. By harnessing and building upon a student’s strengths, schools can create an inclusive and supportive environment where every learner can thrive.
Final Thoughts About Child Strengths
Remember that each child is unique, and their strengths and talents can evolve over time. Be attentive to their changing interests and adapt your support accordingly. Taking note of your child’s interests can help you provide a nurturing environment that helps them discover their potential and set them up for success.
About The Author
Dane Furfaro is a Licensed Professional Clinical Counselor and has worked with children and families for over 10 years. He has a bachelor’s degree in Psychology from Concordia College and a master’s degree in Educational Psychology with a specialization in counseling from the University of Minnesota. He has been fortunate to empower many children and families in their journeys to create better futures for themselves.
